Contentment – The Power To Live Today

As we all pass through life looking at people and materialistic things around us, we often tend to look at people above us and desire to be like them. Contentment is one of the most important prerequisites for happiness in life, and, unfortunately, many of us don’t have it.
We have a good car that meets our needs, but we always want a nicer, more expensive one – a Mercedes or a Jaguar perhaps. We have a nice house, but we always want a bigger, fancier, more expensive one. More jewelry, fancier clothes, a boat. The list goes on. We always think about more rather than thanking god  for what we already have.

My mother always use to say three words to apply in our daily life.
These are here (used in Gujarati language)
“Chalse” (This is ok with me),“Favse” (I will adjust with this) , “Bhavse” (I will like this – food)
If you apply these three magical words in your daily life, you will always be thankful to God.
 

Contentment is Antidote to Anxiety

The concept of being content is a very important asset in our daily life. If one is content, he will live in peace, harmony and happiness. These qualities can’t be purchased or acquired through wealth or fame. If a person is not content, he will inevitably drive himself crazy. He will do his best to satisfy his needs, but never ever will he be happy or satisfied. He will never have peace of mind and he may continue to live in anxiety and have mental disturbances.

Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.

Contentment is the neuro-physiological experience of satisfaction and being at ease in one’s situation. It is said that a man complained about his old shoes until he saw a man who had no feet.

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.

Here are four steps to develop contentment in your life.

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. When you compare your life with someone else’s, the only place it can lead is toward discontentment. There will always be people who appear to be better off than you, but you don’t know their real circumstances.

A good rule for developing contentment is to always look at the people who have less than us, not the ones who have more.

2. Be grateful for who you are and what you have. Learning to be content requires that you stop any “when and then” thinking – “When I am ___________, then I’ll be happy.” (You fill in the blank.)

The reason we fall into this trap is that we may actually be content for a little while but it won’t last. But, more than likely, someone else or something else will come along and drain the contentment from your life.
 But listen, you are unique. God created you to be like nobody else, so why would you want to be anyone else. God is perfect, and you were his perfect choice to be you. Understanding that is a huge step toward being content with your life.

And then look at all the things God has given you. So often we allow what we don’t have to so dominate our focus that we forget the many wonderful things we already have, not only material blessing, but far more important things, such as family and friends.

3. Give yourself to others. If you will begin giving yourself to others, sharing what things you do have, sharing your time and your talents, you will find yourself learning to be content. Helping others will give you an appreciation for what you have and who you are, but more importantly, you will find yourself growing content. Why? Because God designed us to serve and share with others, and until we do that, we will feel great discontent.

4. Focus on things with eternal value. The real secret to becoming content is to focus on the things that have eternal value.

Think about the things in your life: What will last forever? What will last at least for your lifetime? What will last a few short years, or months, or days? Based on eternal value, what things are most important in your life? Where – and with whom – should you put your most time and energy?
By re-organizing your life around eternal priorities, you’ll find yourself growing in contentment as you live according to God’s design and purpose.

Prophet Muhammed (saws) said, “Riches does not mean having a great amount of property; real wealth is self-contentment.”

Sahih Bukhari (Book 81, Chapter 15)

Problems And Solutions

As I have work regarding problems and solutions… I just understood this subject few days ago and wrote this in my diary.
“Don’t rush behind solution.. Understand Problem,Divide problem and then proceed”


Today,I just got this short story in my EMail box, and copied here.. Quite interesting

Once, an old man &
his 24 years old son were going from kanpur to lucknow in train. The son
sat next to the window with his father besides him. The son looking out
towards the window shouted,
Dad, look the trees going behind.
Dad
smiled and a young couple sitting near, looked at the 24 years old
behaving childishly, with pity.
Suddenly he again exclaimed, dad,
look the clouds running with us. The couple couldnt resist and said to
the old man, why dont you take ur son to a good doctor, the old man
smiled and said
We did and we are just coming from the hospital, my
son was blind from birth,
he just got his eyes today. !!!

Moral:

Dont jump to a conclusion directly…coz what u see is most probably not the truth…. :)


Books may help you

Becoming a Problem Solving Genius   Problem-Solving Strategies (Problem Books in Mathematics)    Think Better: An Innovator's Guide to Productive Thinking

Used Vs Loved

I was wondering why people are so crazy about shopping malls more than parents, why they love to buy things which they have not used, why they want more and more things in their rooms.

Why they don’t think ” why I should not make my parents happy by doing such and such thing”.
Here I have little story which will help us to understand how love is more precious than your favorite things like (Car,bike,diary, purse,personal laptop,or your room).

While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times; not realizing he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father…..with painful eyes he asked, ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’
The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions… sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written ‘LOVE YOU DAD’.
The next day that man committed suicide…

Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life…
Things are to be used and people are to be loved, But the problem in today’s world is that, People are used and things are loved…

During the day, be careful to keep this thought in mind: Things are to be used, but People are to be loved… Be yourself… This is the only day we HAVE. Have a nice day.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits they become character;
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Stay FAITHFUL and Be GRATEFUL

 My friend Yaan Shun Jian sent this story to me. Special thanks for him.

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Too much of sleep is harmful too

No one likes getting up in the morning (and we are not talking about that small percentage of freaks that do). We know you roll over hitting the snooze button for just five minutes more of that wonderful dream. But if you are sleeping a little too much, it might be time to change your lifestyle.

Now all of us have heard of insomnia, but did you know that sleeping too much is also harmful? Studies have shown that sleeping more than 6-8 hours a day could decrease the lifespan of an average adult by 17%!! According to Mumbai-based General Practitioner, Dr Prakash Lulla sleeping too much could cause diabetes, hypertension, migraines, increase chances of a cardio-vascular disease like a heart attack and compromise hormone levels.

“One of the most common effects of oversleeping is obesity,” says Mumbai-based Psychologist, Dr Sunita Dube. “Tiredness, irritability and fatigue are other effects”, she adds. Imagine so much from those 3-4 extra hours of your beauty sleep.

However, the sleeping itself is not a problem, what causes the excess sleep is. Here are some commonly known problems which might have made you want to say in bed a little longer.

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Depression

15% of patients suffering from depression sleep too much. “Also, trauma, shock or stress can be a cause of prolonged sleeping”, says Dr Dube. If you know someone who’s not so happy and tends to oversleep, it is time for them to visit a psychologist.

Lack of exercise

Do you have a sedentary job?? Lack of exercise can reduce the quality of your sleep and the body will compensate by sleeping more than needed. Go out for a daily walk or give an hour to yoga.

Poor diet

Long hours of sleep might indicate that you need a change of diet. Eating too much processed food, junk food and eating foods that take longer to break down before sleeping might be interfering with your sleep. As much as you want to believe that it was only your scheming mother who wanted you to finish those foul tasting veggies in your plate, it has been proved that a healthy diet can do wonders for you.

 Health Problems

Too much sleep can be a sign of health disorders. Dr Lulla says “If you are sleeping too much suddenly, it might be a sign that there is something wrong with your body like a thyroid problem, a Central Nervous System Disorder or a metabolic disorder.” If it’s very difficult for you to get up in the morning even after pressing the snooze button 10 times, here are some things you can do to prevent that extra sleep.
1. Make sure your last meal is at least 3 hours before your bedtime. “Try having only a bowl of fresh fruits or a glass of milk before dinner”, says Dr Lulla. “Avoid drinking tea or coffee before sleeping”, adds Dr Sunita Dube.
2. Exercise regularly. It will not only help you sleep well but also make you physically fit.
3. If you go out during the day, a nice shower in the evening will help you sleep better at night.
4. More important than sleeping a lot is sleeping soundly. Try listening to some soft music, reading a light book or playing a relaxing game to improve the quality of your sleep.
5. Set a time for waking up in the morning. Earlier the better. According to Dr Lulla, “Waking up at 6 in the morning will help you sleep better at night and make the most of your day”.
6. Try sleeping in a room with lots of fresh air. The oxygen will refresh your mind and make your body function better.
7. Avoid sleeping in the day time. An afternoon nap of 45-minutes is fine, but lounging and sleeping for 2-3 hours might cost you your sweet dreams at night.
8. Psychologist Dube says, “Avoid negative thinking just before you sleep. Try calming techniques like meditation or Shavasana”.
9. We know you love sleeping but remember a good night’s sleep of 7 hours is sufficient to rejuvenate your body. So, set your alarm accordingly.
10. If you still feel sleepy after sleeping for 12 hours and nothing is helping, visit a doctor! So keep these tips in mind and sleep well!

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~~~ Five balls Juggling ~~~

30 second Speech by Bryan Dyson


Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air.
You name them – Work, Family, Health, Friends and
Spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the Air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball.
If you
drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four Balls – Family, Health, Friends and Spirit – are made of glass.
If you drop one of these; they
will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or evenshattered.
They will never be the same.
You must understand
that and strive for it.

WORK EFFICIENTLY DURING OFFICE HOURS AND
LEAVE ON TIME. GIVE THE REQUIRED TIME TO YOUR FAMILY,
FRIENDS & HAVE PROPER REST.

VALUE HAS A VALUE ONLY IF ITS VALUE IS VALUED

Janaza Airlines

Your ticket is absolutely free, get ready to fly.
Have you collected
your luggage, are you prepared with your good deeds?

Free Ticket For Your Ultimate Journey

Please read your ticket details carefully, please keep all terms and conditions in your mind.

Ticket Type : One-way
Price : Absolutely free (booking confirmed)

Passenger Details
:

Name : One of the Children of Adam
Origins : From clay
Address : Planet Earth

Conditions Of Travel:

Departure : From life on earth
Destination :
Eternal life
Stop-over :
Hotel (2 meters under the ground, for one person)
Duration of flight :
From couple of seconds to several millions of years

Departure time:

Time of death : Exact time is unknown (but it can happen earlier than expected)
Arrival time : On the Judgment Day (not specified in the timetable)

Information About Interrogation:

On the arrival to the hotel (grave): incorruptible Auditors – two angels: Munkar & Nakir, will immediately start questioning. Three questions will be asked:

1. Who is your God?

2. Who is your prophet?

3. What is your religion?

Questions will follow about your life on earth. For more information, refer to 27th Aya of Sura “Ibrahim” of the Holy Quran.

Luggage:


1. Despite the fact that the air transfers only one passenger at a time, there

are some restrictions on the amount of baggage that you can take with you

2. You can take with you 5 meters of white cloth

3. Any items of material life of earth are strictly forbidden.

4. Realistic luggage should consist of good deeds, modest behavior and of
well spent time on calling people to Islam.

Important instructions:

All the passengers should remember that tickets are not exchangeable refundable.
This journey is compulsory for representatives of all races, nationalities, religions and of all ages.
Delays are not stipulated.

Captain:

Angel of Death will not compromise on changing the date and time of departure.

For more information:


Read instructions, which you can find in The Holy Quran and Sunnah
, could also consult Aalims (scholars). Please do it as soon as possible.

During your journey you will not be provided with oxygen mask, as your breathing system will be terminated just before the departure time.


Additional instructions:


1. You don’t need to take care of your boarding pass, passport and other
travel documents. To prepare for a comfortable flight:

2. Pray 5 times a day

3. Read the Holy Quran

4. Follow the sunna
h to the best of your ability and be ready for your flight,
as you may have to depart any minute (even now)


Final warning:

Final destination depends on you! Please do not waste your time on planet earth. Remember, you have one-way ticket:, Either to Hell or to Paradise .

Hijab


Woh he hijab me aaj.

Mila he dil ko mere gehra sukoon aaj
kyun ki woh he hijab me aaj

Juki he nazre unki adab se
sharm he un ki nigahon me aaj
kyun ki woh he hijab me aaj

Haya ki roshni he chhai mehfil me,
Gul he mehfuz bhavron se aaj
kyun ki woh he hijab me aaj

Dikh rahi he chamak sitaro me aaj
kyunki woh he hijab me aaj

Hijab ne bhi shukr kiya he ada
kyun ki woh he hijab me aaj

Kalam bhi he karti adab unki aaj
Kar ke ISRAR woh ham se aaj

Na kar bayan un ka avaam me aaj
kyun ki woh he hijab me aaj

Karde KHUDA sab ko KHOO E PARDAGI aaj
kyun ki woh he hijab me aaj
(Ishrar G.)


I just tried to write something about “Hijab for Women“, not about “woh.

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